Monday, November 19, 2012

Children: 2 Parents Needed!

So, it is simply amazing to me how much easier tasks can be when two people are doing it rather than just one.  I don't think I fully appreciated this until we had Caleb. 

Last week was one of the weeks that I tend to dread.  Matt was gone pretty much all day and night on both Monday and Tuesday with work and meetings in the evening.  Wednesday we did have together in the evening and then Thursday we traveled to DesMoines together and did not get home until dinner time.  I have learned to keep myself busy, for example meet up with friends or have them come to our home to make the time pass quickly when Matt is not at home.  Being an extrovert, this also makes me not so stir crazy to be "stuck" by myself with no one to talk too. :)   

When Caleb was only 2 or 3 months it was almost impossible to get anything done when you were home by yourself.  It was hard to fix a meal for yourself, go to the bathroom and shower.  It sounds so silly because we all so easily forget what it is like when it is not happening "right now" to us.  Now that he is almost 1, he can play by himself for much longer periods of time, but now that he is so mobile you must pay close attention to what he is getting into!  Each stage is challenging, but a blessing.   

I have no idea how single parents survive with their children.  I am so blessed that Matt enjoys spending time with Caleb and allows me to cook/bake or do other things in the evening while he plays/cares for him.  It is amazing how much more enjoyable your time is with your child when there are two of you to balance the tasks at hand.  It almost seems bearable and that is why God created the family to have two parents, a mother and a father, each unique in how they shape and influence their child. 

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Survival Mode

So....the past few weeks at the Townsley household have been in survival mode.  Both of our cars needed to go in for routine maintenance and then they both had extra things that happened to them both a week later and so we were constantly juggling our schedules to see when would be best to take the car, leave overnight, pick up the car etc., etc.  It was frustrating but now all of our cars are ready for winter....at least we hope! :) 

Next up, our disposal in our kitchen also went out around the same time.  We waited about a week and then bought one.  At first you think, oh this isn't bad until you soon realize that your house starts smelling more because of food in your trash and it is a lot harder to rinse things out for recycling and just general clean-up after meals.  We had a dear friend of ours help Matt put in the disposal this past week, however, the plumbing underneath is still not quite right and we are having leaking issues; which means no running our dishwasher.  *Sigh*  Matt has been very gracious and did all of our dishes for me.  This helps so much!!

This week is also crazy for us as Matt has some very long days between obligations for work and also church.  Today I took our son to Coralridge Mall in hopes of getting some Christmas shopping done.  We did get a little bit done, but I was exhausted by lunch time already.  I have no idea how single parents do it.  When I am with our son for the whole day I am physically and mentally exhausted.  Caleb is such a great kid, too.

What have I been learning through all of these experiences/happenings?  Patience is one thing for sure and also how communication is so key in a relationship, especially marriage.  I know this, as I was a communications major in college, but each time life brings craziness, stress and even joy, I am consistently reminded of how key this is in learning to serve and love one another.  Relationships are hard, but we were created to live in community and desperately need each other to stay the course!

Saturday, November 10, 2012

Why Java and Joy?

Hello there!  Welcome to my blog.  I have been interested in blogging for quite some time, but until recently have not found the time.  Since becoming a mother last December (2011) and being an extreme extrovert, I have found it difficult to get the amount of social time in with friends, family etc. as I need or want.  I also use things like Facebook, Twitter and will use this blog for ways to outwardly process what is going on in life and what God is teaching me. 

So...why Java and Joy?  Well, I am a lover of espresso-based drinks or lattes as most people know them as. :)  My favorite drink is a mocha, but my tastes have gotten quite stronger since I started working at a coffee shop in August 2011.  I enjoy all things coffee!  I also have my own commerical size espresso machine at home (ask me about that story some time....)  and seek out fun new coffee shops to try.

Joy....the two biggest joys of my life besides my Savior Jesus Christ is my husband and best friend, Matt and our son Caleb.  These two fill up my life with so much joy and I can't imagine life without them both!

I hope that my blog posts will inspire you to find the joy in your life.  Each day will have its ups and downs and maybe even some really hard stuff, but God gives us new mercies each day and the peace that he is right by our side!